Dear Annie: My sister has turned into a bridezilla and I’m tired of keeping the peace

Dear Annie: My younger sister, “Mia,” is getting married in a few months, and what should be an exciting time has turned into a nightmare. I’m her maid of honor, but instead of feeling honored, I feel like her personal assistant. She sends me endless texts about wedding details, expects me to be available 24/7 and gets upset if I can’t drop everything to help her.

Last week, she asked me to redo her bridal shower plans because she “wasn’t feeling the theme” after I had already put down a deposit. When I pushed back, she got teary and said I was ruining her big moment. Our mom keeps telling me to just go along with it to keep the peace, but I’m exhausted and resentful.

I love my sister and want her day to be special, but I also don’t want to be treated like an unpaid wedding planner. Help! -- Burnt-Out Maid of Honor

Dear Burnt-Out: The duties of a maid of honor don’t include being at the bride’s beck and call. Yes, it’s her day, but that doesn’t give her carte blanche to take her family’s generosity for granted. Let her know you’re happy to support her but simply can’t be available 24/7.

As for the bridal shower, remind her that changes at this point aren’t realistic. If she insists, let her handle it.

Your mom’s advice to “keep the peace” comes at your expense. You’re allowed to protect your time and energy.

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